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Home Opinion Mahadi’s Soap Opera: Episode 3; Destructive Criticism in a Melodrama – By Shamsudeen S Ahmad
Mahadi’s Soap Opera: Episode 3; Destructive Criticism in a Melodrama – By Shamsudeen S Ahmad

Mahadi’s Soap Opera: Episode 3; Destructive Criticism in a Melodrama – By Shamsudeen S Ahmad

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Mahadi’s Soap Opera: Episode 3; Destructive Criticism in a Melodrama – By Shamsudeen S Ahmad 

Even the most tactfully delivered criticism, can take a toll on our self-esteem and sense of self worth. Although as you probably know, it’s worse to receive criticism from someone who doesn’t know how to effectively deliver it, or whose criticism is outright malicious, unsolicited, or more of personal attack.

Unfortunately, what we’ve seen in Mahadi’s melodrama today, against the Government of Rt. Hon. Aminu Bello Masari (AMB), is “destructive criticism.” Its intent is to harm, undermine, or destroy the reputation / self-esteem of AMB’s administration. In his soap opera, Mahadi either mercilessly chews the integrity of ABM, or publicly denigrates his capacity.

Mahadi’s melodrama differs from constructive criticism because it’s not intended to help AMB; in fact it’s just the opposite.

I don’t believe that Mahadi is acting in good Faith. There could be ulterior motives at play: a personal vendetta, jockeying for position or recognition, or maybe he’s just having some bad moments these days.

Most of us can tell the difference between legit constructive criticism and destructive behavior—but it’s often difficult to confidently identify it as such. This is because we might default to second-guessing or blaming ourselves.

Mahadi couldn’t deliver his criticism without attacking the character, reputation and softness of AMB. Interestingly, even if ABM identified it as destructive criticism, he wisely ignored it. A response from AMB would’ve placed AMB in a more dangerous situation. Of course, remaining silent is never an easy thing to do. Destructive criticism hurts because, it’s designed to.

Ideally, we should take the grain of truth in a criticism seriously if there’s any. Once the critic turns personal, that’s your cue to ignore everything it has to say. Brian Vazsily puts it more bluntly: “When a person is in the business of destructively criticizing you, the ONLY thing you can do is let them go. Shut them off. Detach. Stop listening.”

Recognize that the critic is wrong and the fact that they think they can talk to you that way is also wrong. Yet, to disregard is more idealistic as a leader.

Shamsudeen S. Ahmed

Writes.

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